I see you.
I see you struggling with bills, having to work in a team hellbent on one upping each other, and I also hear you deferring blame for your current situation.
But sometimes the hardest, most necessary, thing to do is to take responsibility for your present.
You’re having a hard time with bills, well ask yourself: what are some things you can do to lessen your financial strain?
You’re frustrated with your work environment, well ask yourself: what can you do to adjust the environment to be more flourishing for you?
If you’re unhappy with the present, don’t just accept it for what it is and continue to stew in your dissatisfaction, blaming others for your current state. Take control, figure out what it is you need to be happy and thrive.
I don’t mean in a broad sense either, take baby steps, find little things that will slowly ease you out of your situation. Here are some steps you can take to change your present.
Identify The Problem.
You’re having a hard time financially. Ask yourself:
- Where is my money going?
- I don’t want to adjust my lifestyle, is it possible to get a second job? -> If you feel you are above getting a second job… but want to keep your frivolous lifestyle and struggle financially… we just found your problem dude.
You’re unhappy with your work environment. Ask yourself:
- What can the team be doing differently that would help me thrive?
- More communication? -> suggest daily check in calls or go the extra mile and directly tell your supervisor you feel out of the loop.
- Is it the environment or the actual work that’s the problem? Would I be happy doing the same thing but with different people? Or do I hate my current routine? -> Depending on how you answer these is the difference between career change or a company change.
Ok, you’ve identified the problem – now actively do something about it.
It’s not enough to just say “Ope, yeah that’s the problem. Glad I can give the cat a name.” No, no, no.
If finances are a problem and you don’t want to downsize your lifestyle and quit living above your means, it’s time to buck up buttercup. There is nothing wrong with working more than one job. There is a massive misconception in thinking part time jobs are either food or retail, but how about working at a wine boutique? Babysitting? Photography? Dog walker? Tutor? House sitter? There are options! Fun options, at that.
If you’ve realized you’re unhappy with the your work environment – and you feel it’s nothing that can be solved with a good kumbaya moment with colleagues… maybe it’s time for a company change. Nothing wrong with that, people evolve and grow and that’s just life. But if you see yourself changing companies and still being dissatisfied with your life… it’s time to bounce careers, to try something new. If you don’t know where to start in a career change, just ask yourself what activities make you truly happy and explore that. If you’re keen on succulents, google “jobs working with succulents” or literally anything that brings you happiness: google that word + job.
Hope you didn’t think I had more than those two steps, because I don’t. That’s really all you truly have to do to fix your present situation: identify the problem + take action.
It sounds simple, but I recognize the complexity of these two things and I also recognize the potential big steps – and existential crises – these can lead to. But this is what’s necessary to adjust your present to make way for a happier future.
Not to make this a religious post or anything, but the Serenity Prayer always comes to mind when I’m faced with difficult situations and looking for guidance on how to move forward:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.